Marriages Worth Millions Presents:
Nine Principles of Proactive Parenting 
(adapted from Dr. Glenn Latham)

Module Nine: The Ability to Smile and Laugh, Touch, and Talk--A LOT

Studies show that Americans touch each other less than do people in nearly every other country. One study showed that Italians touch each other an average of 120 times an hour, but Americans average only 2.8 times an hour. 

Yet, affectionate, appropriate touches can soothe mind and body. Therefore, smiling, laughing, touching, and talking are the most therapeutic behaviors of all for communicating love and affection and for building bonds between parents and children.

Appropriate, affectionate touch can do wonders to redirect misbehavior.  When your children get out of line at the grocery store, DON’T jerk them back with a scowl and a rough “Get over here! Now do what I tell you!”

INSTEAD, take her by the hand, smile, draw her close to you, give her a hug or a pat on the back and gently say, “Thank you for standing close to me. I like having you close to me.” 

Or, INSTEAD of berating your teenager for staying out late, say, “I’m so glad you’re home safe and sound. I’ve worried about you.”

Let consequences do any remaining discipline for you.

Leaving notes of affection and appreciation is another great way to spread smiles, laughter, and positivity.  Simply scratch out an “I Love You,” and leave it on a pillow or bathroom mirror. You’ll be surprised at how much influence and reciprocal affection this skill builds between you and your children! 

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